Realm Reset: Starting Small

Hi friends,

Today I’m introducing you to the idea of a Realm Reset.

Because I have ADHD, the idea of cleaning my whole house feels dull and overwhelming. But as the queen of my realm, I am the ruler — and resetting the streets every so often is good for me and my people. So, here we go!

When I clean, I sometimes get overwhelmed by the enormity of everything that needs to be done. I listened to the Clutterbug Podcast, and it really helped me with the idea that you don’t have to do everything all at once. Doing one thing a day is a win.

Even if it’s a low-spoon day (for my fellow neurospicy/chronically ill friends: “spoons” are a way of measuring daily energy. Imagine starting with 15 spoons in the morning. If cleaning takes 10 spoons, you only have 5 left for the rest of the day. And if you don’t sleep well, maybe you only have 5 spoons total the next day). Even then, you can still accomplish something — even if it’s small.

Resetting your realm can also mean letting your home bring you joy. Like Marie Kondo says: keep the things that spark joy. (Yes, I watched those shows too.) I love the concept — although in my house, we’re not minimalists. I have a library’s worth of books, and I’m not giving them up.

That’s the point: don’t follow advice that makes you sad. Your home should fit you.

Personally, I love the dark cottagecore / moody aesthetic — blacks, dark browns, forest greens, deep purples, and the occasional bold blue. But maybe you love all-white because it calms your brain. Or maybe you’re an “all carpet” person because you like how it feels under your feet. Whatever your style is, your home should bring you peace and happiness.

✨ Start small. One thing at a time.

Here’s a tip I picked up (and I’ll credit it when I remember the source!): start with your front entryway. Make it welcoming to you.

If walking into your house immediately frustrates you, you’ll carry that feeling every time you come home. Instead, set it up so that when you walk through the door, you smile — because you are home.

That, my friends, is a true Realm Reset.

Now I’d love to hear from you: What’s one thing about your home that brings you joy? Big or small — a cozy chair, a favorite color, your plant collection — share it in the comments. Let’s celebrate those little sparks of magic together.